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Weaning Foods
There are many healthy recipes to wean a child from breast milk.
Here are some
Bottled or Canned foods: Anything that is fresh has nutrients and has subtlest energy in it. When cooked food is kept longer it loses that. We adults cannot eat such food then how can we except babies to eat food that has been cooked and bottled and kept for several months. Just for our convenience and just because babies cannot know these facts we feed them these junk good. It could be organically grown foods and bottled , still it is not good. Give freshly prepared food to babies.
Millet: Millet the perfect baby food which is rich in nutrients and fiber and is also a great cleanser. It detoxifies the body of the baby and keeps healthy. No known allergic reactions to millet has ever been noted (African millet or Indian ragi is the best form of millet). As we said earlier the body of the infant tries to get rid of the toxins by giving out allergic reactions and pus and itches. The itching sensation occurs so that blood circulation to the skin is increased to remove the toxins. This is why the skin appears red.
Our experience shows that mothers during pregnancy when drink less amounts of water (do not count fluids intake) accumulate toxins in the umbilical fluids and in turn in the body of the kids. After the kid is born the body of the kid tries to get rid of this in the form of eczema. There fore giving water and giving fiber rich foods like millet helps healing the skin problems.
Corn milk: Cut the corn grits as close as to the hard part. Steam it and then put in a blender and filter to get the milk. This can be started as early as six months. After seven months it can be given without filtering in a solid pasty form. It good in nutrients and rich in fiber too.
Rice dal mix: Rice and dal can be steam and mixed in a blender to make a thick soup. Add butter or ghee (clarified butter). Add a little salt if needed.
Legumes and beans: Soak the beans and legumes for overnight and cook them well. You can add a pinch of ginger (not to irritate the stomach). this will enhance digestion and flatulence in kids. Ginger is optional. Soaking and spouting alone will prevent gas formation. If you want your kid to get enough proteins this is the good way.
Brown rice: If soaked for 2 to 4 hours and then cooked is a fiber rich good and supplies all good nutrients.
Vegetables:Avoid frozen vegetables. freshly prepared vegetables are tasty and nutritious. All vegetables are good. Steam cook carrots and other vegetables. Potatoes steamed and mixed with a pinch of salt and little butter is a good food and tasty food for kids older than 6 to 8 months.
Fruits :Give fresh fruits and juices. use blender to make juice. its easy and gives fibers and other nutrients. Juicers will remove fiber and many other nutrients too. Apples and pears can be blended with little water. Instead of sugar raisins and dates could be given. They are natural sweeteners.
Almond milk: Soak almonds and dates overnight and then put in a blender and add water and make a milk like consistency. its a very good drink for kids. Some kids like it less watery consistency.
Cooking bananas: Ripe bananas can be given by gently smashing between the fingers or could be blended in a blender with water (No sweeteners needed). Ripe cooking bananas are available in market. Steam cook them with water, its excellent food for kids and tasty.
Look again how our ancestors were highly intelligent in using banana powder to infants, patients and old people. Children are weaned with this banana powder. Traditionally unripe special banana called "Nenthrampazham" (called as cooking bananas in USA, Mexico) was cut into pieces and sun dried and store in a clean bottle. It could be powdered and stored also for convenience. To prepare, pour one teaspoon of ghee to a pan and add two tablespoons of the powder and just briefly fry for 20 seconds. Add water and stir continuously for 5 minutes to cook without forming lumps. Add sugar or palm jaggery for taste. This is an instant natural safe healthy traditional baby food. This is now scientifically proven that Banana powder isgood because of its high anti-oxidant power and also rich in nutrients.
This is now scientifically proven that Banana powder is good because of its high anti-oxidant power and also rich in nutrients.
Why Nendran is best weaning food for babies
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007%2Fs13197-015-1927-8
This is an excellent recipe to help kids gain weight. This is not organic but it is sold by an ayurvedic center.
Kannan kaya kuruku/kunnan kaya kuruku for babies https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=83zkKy33avE
Banana Powder Porridge | Baby Weight Gaining Food 6Month+ | Weight Gaining Series https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r-Jr2BQQKo8
Yogurt : Once the child feeds on rice, mix with yogurt and feed the child. The lactic acid organisms in it are suitable for infant feeding.
A good tonic for children is prepared by heating a cup full of fresh drumstick leaf juice and then the clear fluid is filtered.
It is mixed with milk instead of water and the infants and children are fed once a day to help them to grow healthy with strong bones, blood and high resistance against infections and mal-nutrition.
Another site - Swarna prashna http://swarnaprashana.org/tag/arka/
Click here for discussion about your questions on baby foods.
Protein quality of developed home made weaning foods.
Abstract
Home made weaning foods developed from locally available foods like bajra, barley, green gram (Vigna radiata L.), amaranth grain (Amaranthus sp.) and jaggery using household technologies like roasting and malting had a PER ranging from 2.04 to 2.13, BV 79.56 to 80.68, NPU 66.75 to 67.86, NPR 2.13 to 2.76 and PRE 34.18 to 44.18. The values were comparable to that of cerelac--a commercial weaning food.
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Qualities of a good parent
please do not stress the children in any way to undergo transformations based on this article.
Physical needs for the child
Responsbility to privide good food, shelter, clothing, medication and education but not luxury.
Emotional needs for the child
Love with compassion and freedom has to be given without any conditions. We cannot live through them. They are not our social status. they have their own life. They are individuals.
Intellectual needs of the child
Make the child to know that every thing can be atttained only through work and effort.
But need not always preech the child with advices. 1-6 years old children cannot understand such long conversations and philosophy. We can suggest him but not force him.
Do not put off your child’s talents and let own before others. Same time do not say he alone is the best. He is one among the best.
Try to understand the issues of your children. Try to get justice for your child’s rights.
Do not expect – List:
Do not think that your child must know what is struggle. But when the child grows we must try to expose them to reality of situations.
Do not force the child to fulfill your dreams.
Do not expect immediate results from your children.
Do not compare your children with others.
Do not respect your child only just based on academics.
Do not accept all his demands and spoil him with lavish spending and blind love.
Do not expect that they must follow you in all aspects. Do not doubt your own child.
Do not threat them, bribe them.
Do not talk ill about any one especially about his school and tutors.
What the child must know by 5 years – 18 years?
Each child has the own limits and talents.
Your child can be one among the best. He/she cannot be the best for ever.
He/she must be able to accept the healthy competetions and results of any actions.
He/she must be taught to face the reality with acceptance of failure also.
He/she must be confident but not selfboasting and over confident
He/she must be encouraged for his/her talents.
He/she must be very clear about cause-effect theory from very small age.
Marks, ranks and rewards are not life.
Make them to realize that your support will be there at any tough time in life.
This will make them to accept and share their failures and mistakes with you.
They must be well prepared to have alternative choices and solutions.
We cannot put off any other child before our child. Try to understand that for every parents their child is great.
Try to understand his needs will change when he grows.
Self discipline is very important which can be brought without threats.
He/she must be aware about your hard work and sacrifices. He/she must be able to value the money and its importance.
Try to solve his issues with his school and peers.
Try to provide a calm happy family setup. Avoid conflits, violance at home. Try to avoid all unacceptable habits.
TV, net connection, mobile phones can be give at correct age.
Give less choices. oo many choices will confuse the child.
Try to have a chat with them in evenings. Spend special time for them.
We all have an inner child of our self. That child has to be developed first.
We must transform and make others to get transform.
Be firm,but not rude and abuse them any way.
Expose them to good culture, traditions, values, arts and socail skills.
Give importance to social skills.
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Mother Tongue
We think only about the importance of hereditary genes that have been passed from the parents to the child. We don’t understand that the language ‘sound of the mother’ has a profound effect on the child. That is why the term Mother tongue and not father-tongue is in the dictionary. Because, for more than 270 days the child hears the sound of the mother and so the mother's language has so much importance in the child's brain and behavioral development.
Later in the future the studies about twins will prove that one of the twin who speaks the mother tongue has better performance than the other twin who spoke a different language (like in Bollywood movies, situations where after the birth of the twins one twin being separated by a villain).
Mother tongue is very vital for children especially children who are born in foreign countries. Several scientific studies show that bilingual children perform better than mono-lingual children.
In USA and UK, children born to Indian parents have issues with mother tongue in contrast with children born in non-English speaking countries like Arab countries, African, European and South American. This is because only Indians feel that English is superior than their own Indian language and so they appreciate their children when they speak English in USA or UK accent.
A child like any other adult values appreciation. As soon as the child understands that their parents are appreciating their foreign accent language, the child then eventually refuse to talk in their native language.
Indian parents are not aware of the reality that children identify with culture through language more than any other medium. So there is often conflicts between the parents and children during their teenage. That is the time the Indian parents cannot accept the foreign cultural behavior in their children. Just by giving Indian food and clothing, a child cannot be an Indian. It is the language that makes the Indian culture for that matter any culture of the world.
Pradheep's personal experience of visiting many countries and studying the second generation Indian children, found that in the parents dont feel proud of children speaking Arabic, or Italian or Spanish language. So the children automatically speak mother tongue. In USA and UK the children speak the local English language because, they appreciate the language over the mother tongue.
Will children get confused speaking two languages at young age? Children are smart unlike adults. If adults can talk without mixing languages with their children, then children do not get confused. Children get confused hearing a language spoken with words mixed up from two languages. Instead tell the child about the language being talked.
For example, Pradheep and Priya talked to their son only in Malayalam at home when he was young (born and brought up in USA). He is 13 now and is still fluent in the language. When he was 1.5-2 years old, they told the child that it is now "Tamil time" in the evening for one hour and started talking to the child in Tamil. Now the child is fluent in Tamil also.
Then when he was 3 years old, Priya made a Hindi speaking time every day for one hour and she made sure that she did not mix Tamil and Malayalam but spoke pure Hindi. Now the USA born child is the Hindi translator for his Indian born Dad.
Naturally when the child went to school and came back, started talking in American English accent. Pradheep and Priya did not appreciate it, but kept silent. But whent he child spoke in Indian languages started appreciating it. In few weeks time, the child left talking English at home, understanding that the language is only a means to communicate and not feel anything superior about a language over another.
Will child be not good in English written and spoken language if not speaking at home?
That is not true. Pradheep and Priya’s son who speaks fluently 3 Indian languages is equally good or even better than many single language English speaking children in class. This is a biased thinking of many adults. Pradheep rememebrs that he being born in Kerala and speaking Malayalam at home, scored higher in Tamil writing and reading than the Tamil native children in his class. Not only Pradheep, but also many of such Kerala migrated children at CMS (Coimbatore Malayali Samajam school) scored higher grades in Tamil than the single language speaking native Tamilian class mates.
If children are taught the pattern of language well in childhood (like number patterns), then a child can be good in written and reading in any language. (Click to know about efficiency of using patterns to learn science and math)
Another Personal research: Pradheep's cousins who grew up like him outside of Kerala, in Ooty-Tamil Nadu and Mumbai also had this mother tongue and cultural problems. He and his sister who spoke malayalam at home in Tamil Nadu, used to wonder why his Mumbai and Ooty cousins hated visiting Kerala during summer vacation. Those cousins who did not speak the mother tongue would nag their parents to leave Kerala as soon as possible complaining it was too hot and raining and boring in Kerala.
It’s all in the mother tongue. No matter his cousins in Mumabi and Ooty-Tamil Nadu ate Kerala food, they could not identify their cultural roots. They ended up marring Hindi and Tamil natives (nothing wrong about it, but their parents in old age are very unhappy about it).
Is my child slow in speaking because we speak two different languages?. Reasons for a child not speaking clearly even at age 2 or 3 are due to multiple reasons. In our experience priya used to talk with the child not about just things around, but would talk about her growing up in India and also about the stories connected with relatives friends and also of pradheep's family. Adults talking to children help in quick and strong language development. Now this fact is proved by research (Why talking to kids matters!). Do not think the blabbering and unclear talks of your child is because of being exposed to multi languages. Conversation matters!
We took our child to India when he was just 3 years old only. But we would often tell the child before hand the nature of the journey and all the challenges we would encounter. To our amazement the child did not give any problems in the journey. Many of our friends that time thought we were crazy telling all this to an infant and would arugue how would the child understand. It is basically how we treat the child, the child behaves.
Biased modern educated class: Modern educated Indians both in India and abroad do not have a clear vision in life (except to make money and destroy environment) because they have not imbibed the Bharath culture. Culture is very important to keep our mind cultured to enjoy the wealth of life. Without culture the mind will not allow anybody to have the peace of mind to enjoy the wealth that one makes. Read here about culture for children and adults.
Modern science is amazingly throwing light on various questions about the mystery of life. But the research is not yet complete and so is the understanding. Unfortunately we take the half knowledge of science as the complete Truth. Latest scientific news throws light on this aspect. That is the reason that we should give importance to Ancient science, which has given all the Truths needed for the modern man. Modern Science "Re-searches", the old scientific Truths. Along with passing our hereditary genes to our children , we should also pass our "Heritage" too.
Read here the importance of Heritage.
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Parenting
Parenting is one of the most important period in a man's and women's life. Most parents think parenting as disciplining an adopted or children biologically born to them.
What is really parenting?. Real parenting is Self-diciplining one's own inner child. As parents we have to see our own inner child through the external child that we try to discipline. As adults we have an immature child within us. When we grew up we were not fully aware of our inner child because we were focused only on the child-body of ours. We grew up without really disciplining and maturing the "childness" within. We gave up our innocence and thought we have matured to adult.
When we become parents we get a greatest chance in life to witness our inner child through our external child. Any time we open our mouth to discipline our external child, pay attention to see if we have those qualities hidden within us. Most parents yell at children's mistakes, hardly noticing that that trait is actually one's own self reflection. Through child if parents take attempt to grow along with their children, finally both of them would make a wonderful family.
Parenting is not preaching but self learning and correction: Only when we are aware of correcting our own inner-immature child mind, our external child will also self correct. Otherwise our children will take our words as preaching and not teaching. We as adults will create rules for children and a separate rule for us. This is not democratic but autocracy. Then later our children will drive us crazy.
Golden rule in parenting: Every time we correct our child, pay attention (awareness) to our own inner child. See if that has matured or still under developed. If under developed, grow and mature that inner child first. Then you will see your outer child maturing naturally. This will bring less friction in family. When you change, you will see change in your own external child.
When you scream at your child to do home work (his or her duties), see that you also follow that same rule. Do you do your duties as a parent or wife or husband. Children will not take your preaching, they follow you as a role model. Preaching is just theory and Teaching is practical version of it.
Family values and tradition is on the verge of crashing. We all want a peaceful world without any participation. When we create a peaceful family, a family without violence, then the world would naturally end up peaceful.
Why is culture important in parenting? All cultures in the world have their own tradition and values. Many of us think culture means something to do with a particular type of food, clothing or life style. That does not answer, why we need a particular life style to impart to children. Culture is that which preserve the most valuble aspect that makes our life happy to live. Click here to read this important article about culture (culture.rightawareness.com)
Parents must introduce such samskars (Tradition) to their children with "Freedom" to inquire the Value of such traditions and live to that values. This gives a sense of direction to their life. Blindly doing rituals without knowing the value will bring dishonor to the tradition.
Without meaningful traditions and rituals, people would be psychologically sick. We would have materialistic comforts with inner peace. In all traditions, the value of rituals is to bring inner peace.
Weak Parenting brings forth mentally troubled children who would grow into society inflicting adults. We are directly or indirectly responsible to all the good and bad occurring in this world. Parenting is the first individual responsibility of every man and women from their part to create a harmonious world.
Parental Expectations and Anxiety: Parents express in their child's behaviour when they have high expectations about the child and trying to live their desires through the child. This creates problems in the parent child relationship.
Glenn doman Best Parenting https://www.domaninternational.org/blog
Click here to read about what to expect after expecting a child grow.
Parenting articles by Dr.Madeswaran (English)
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Understanding Child Behaviour/Psychology by Dr.Madeswaran (English)
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Tamil Parenting articles by Dr.Madeswaran
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Moral stories
https://www.hindujagruti.org/hinduism-for-kids/403.html
Excellent article
http://www.factsforlife.org/03/development.html
This siupports our view on Baby brain and language, a TED talk.
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What to expect while expecting?
Expecting anything from a child after a child is born brings lot of frustrations. A mother can only sow the desires of good qualities during pregnancy. After this programing the child during pregnancy period, it is difficult to change the nature of the child.
Just to make this clear, we give a simple observation of the ingenious wisdom of farmers in india who do the programing of seeds before sowing Agathi (Sesbania grandiflora) seeds. The leaves are known for its potent medicinal nature but is bitter in taste. But the remarkable thing is that if the needs are soaked in milk for two days before it is sown, the bitter taste of the Agathi leaves is reduced considerably.
This is similar to programming of child at the pregnancy time. The mother has control over the child only in the pregnancy period because her thoughts has control over the development of the mind of the child. This is like the milk's influence on the bitterness of the Agathi seeds before sowed in the soil. After delivery a child develops an individuality of its own and is molded then by the external environment.
Most of the parents take no care of this internal environment of the child and does all the parenting and disciplining after the child is born. This is like trying to remve the bitterness of the Agathi seeds without the pretreatment before sprouting.
Love, the intrinsic factor that touches the internal: Once the umbilical cord has been cut, the child is totally an independant person. No more the mother's thoughts influence the child. After this only a mother's and father's Love alone can change the child internal nature. The love we refer here is the unconditional love, which means love the child as the child is without any expectation but allow the child to to fulfill the desires of the child.
This does not mean that the child should be allowed to do whatever the child likes. Make the child understand the effects of its action (Karma). Make the child experience the effects of Self-discipline and Responsibility.
Self-discipline and Responsibility are the two important aspect that every parent has to be focussed while the child is growing, along with the internal focus of the parent's own inner child.
Simple Golden law..."Do not do anything to the child, that you do not want others do to you". Love and show to the child that what you are able to do. When parents cannot show responsibility to family and soceity , how can they demand from child the same?.
Please continue to read "Fundamental facts in Parenting".
