Adult butterfly out of cocoon… When Arundhati invited me last week for her project show, I have decided that I am going to learn something through her work. When she said that her work is based on learning skills, learning equipment I got much excited. Today – 17.4.2015 I saw her evolution across the time. She is now prepared for serving children with learning difficulties and children below 6 years old who need more visual presentations and experiences. Her creative ideas in the area of language [Opposites in visual form], India’s physical wall hanger made me admire her imagination. The way she has made to trace the rivers just by passing the blue thread into small loops shows her Montessori backup of early ages. Parts of a flower – material was excellent and I feel in future Arundhati can do more such tools for children with special needs and learning challenges. Identifying each Indian state with various visual designs has been suggested with few additions by me and she has accepted. I asked, ‘’what is your main aim in designing these?’’ She says, ‘’I has designed few learning models to children with learning difficulties. How I would have felt easy I have expressed. ‘’ This is what a teacher must know today about children. I feel proud to be her teacher and through her today I am taking few great visual ideas to my rural Uni5 schools and I have requested her to make the models for all my schools. I wish her college tutors for giving her the space and freedom to choose the topic. I appreciate her mother and father for behind her creation. I am proud as a teacher to see her real evolution! With regards and blessings, Dr.M.Madeswaran Madras, 17.4.2015

21.7.2015

Coimbatore

Ms.Priya and Pranav visited for one hour and observed the center. They have given positive report about the staff team and happenings. Pranav gave a crisp presentation about mouth care and brushing teeth for 2 times based on his projects to very young children. Priya observed songs, story and continents as Uni5 presentation. She said that a real object can also be presented in BMIAC [Body mind intelligence awareness and conscious] levels. But for this the new staff team needs to be trained well and it also takes time. Just now they have started their work.

Pungeri

Children are able to follow all ground rules and assist each other. Devi Pooja was performed. More orderliness can be observed. No Uni5 concept. Why?

Poraiyar

A child brought guava and gave as real object and also wanted to share. New staff said that she is learning more about child’s needs psychologically and she likes to work. 4 year old children are able to recite Thirukural [2000 year old ethical verses for man] well. Lot of conversation happens around story with books and picture cards also. A 3 year old child offered few rice grains to cock toy and behaved as the parents do with hens and cocks at homes. No Uni5 concept because the children visited nearby government day care center.

Sendurai

A local woman with twins at 2 years old has requested for admission as she felt the previous school is not doing well with her children. Volcano concept was shown as experiment. Tulsi plant Pooja was done. When our senior staff felt thirsty and spoke about it a 2.5 year old girl brought her water can and gave to drink. Elder children keep on insisting the fresh unsettled ones to get settled. A special child was helped by friends from slipping down while walking upon mopped floor. Elder children teach new ones to windup after work.

 

 

Sakthi Foundation

How to assist my child?

[Various questions about child, parents, teachers of various age groups across the globe]

 

1. What is the appropriate age to start art, music or dance class for a child?

Human child must be exposed to any kind of art form from pregnancy or after pregnancy till the age of 3 so that the powerful absorbent mind will imbibe the pattern of the art form and create a natural sense of attraction to know that.

Till the age of 6 the home situation must expose the art forms to the child through media.

Example: If you want your child to learn South Indian music please if you know try to at least sing or just play the audio or TV in which the art gets into the child.

But do not expect the child will sit with you or media and listen. But the impact is being imbibed indirectly. 1-6 years is the age of indirect learning.

Then we can observe the child's expressions for that art.

We can ask the child whether he \ she want to learn.

But do not stress the child.

By 4 years slowly child can be send to music class where bajans, little easy lessons are taught. 

The modern teachers must teach many things to the child just not alone the grammar.

Same way with instruments.

See the child's development and do not push the child.

By 6 they can go for dance, instruments etc.

By 7 ask whether they are ok with the classes, timings, homework, tests, Sundays etc.

Many children have said that they does not have their own relaxing or resting time on Sundays.

Do not dump with sessions.

Let the child focus with one art or maximum 2 based on liking.

The home situation must keep on giving the environment exposing that art form to the child in some way or other.

Do not compare the child with other child in the phase of learning.

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1. Good evening to you, Dr. Madesh,

I am Ms.x [name changed] from Johor Bahru, Malaysia). I attended your Successful Parenting in Johor Bahru last month on the 27th. Sir, I am expecting my 3rd child now as I am 6 weeks pregnant. I need your advice on everything I should know, do and eat for the healthy growth of my child.

I have to tell you that we lost our 2nd child last year. She was only 5 months then. She had a heart problem since birth. Three weeks after surgery, she passed away. We are so devastated. Some said I was the reason for my daughter to be born with a heart problem. I have no clue what mistake did I commit for my daughter to be born in such way. The gynecologist we had our routine checkups also didn't mention anything to us about any abnormality in her heart when she was still in the womb. So, seriously I don't know where is the real problem or perhaps it's our karma and that too I don't know. To be frank, sir, I am quite phobia to get pregnant again...I am afraid if the other child will be born with the same ailment. But, my eldest son is healthy and perfect. We are trying to move on and try to get another baby as a partner for my son. He keeps asking for his little sister, almost every day.

With God's grace we get to know you, sir. I will be very glad if you could advise me on how to be caution and all from the food I eat and everything. I want a healthy child...

TIPS FOR A GOOD PREGNANCY AND GOOD CHILD

1. From 3rd week ears are formed and the fetus starts imbibing all sound patterns. So give much importance to a good, useful, correct language.

2. Any type of unwanted negative thought is like a terrorist who can enter into child's absorbent mind in pregnancy.

3. Create more positive thoughts and signals about the child.

4. Spiritual thinking especially chanting of any one God's name will erase the previous birth's negative thoughts of the pregnancy.

5. Focus in more hand work, relaxed walking by observing your breathing, craft and art work, good music, good reading, creative writing, pattern based work like - kolam, stitching, knitting, bead work, good cooking, designing, careful gardening, spiritual practices, good picnics, temple visits, relaxed meditation, yoga [after DR's advice] etc.

6. Just talk to the child whatever good you feel by placing the right arm upon yr belly.

7. Introduce all family members through photos.

8. Ask your husband to spend some time before sleep to place his right arm and talk to the child.

9. Maintain your own time plan and it is being imbibed by the child.

10. If you want the child to be best in art, try to tell that to the child and do more art work.

11. Try to read Tamil and English if Malai too, so that chemistry of language development happens soon.

12. Listen to M.S.Subbulaxmi's Vishnu Sahasranama which has the energy to enhance the betterment of brain cell development. Can also listen to Skandha sasti kavajam which protects the growing infant from many unseen negative process. Sundara Kandam from Ramayana will strengthen child's skills, morality and intellect power to face tough timings in life. Parents of various religions are directed to practice with their respective spiritual path.

13. Before you do an action, just tell that to the child who can listen. ''Now amma is going to take bath and you will also enjoy the feeling ok''

14. MENTAL STRESS, FAMILY ISSUES - Just for the child's sake put them aside.

15. Good pictures, nature, talks, conversations all will be imbibed.

3. How to handle children below 6 years when they always trouble us?

Till the age of 6 the human child explores the whole living environment with all 5 sense organs. Especially they prefer to touch. They want to imbibe every action directly from adults. So even in speech they just imitate you. Please do not irritate. They are ready to do what we are prepared o do and interrupt us. Unless it is dangerous please allow them to do it. Instead of telling, ‘’no, don’t do, you can’t do that’’ make them to see how you do an action or handle an object. In our centers in past 7 years we have not seen any object including clay items, china clay things, glass wears being broken by very young children. This is because we assist them to handle. Till the age of 6 they have the great fancy and urge to explore and know about all things around them because they have imbibed a truth that ‘’TO BE AN ADULT I MUST KNOW HOW TO USE AND HANDLE ALL THINGS AND ENVIRONMENT AROUND ME’’. So it is better to allow them to perform all house hold work along with you. Try to provide their size vessels, tools so that they will start working. Till the age of 6 the human hands must be allowed to work. Chained hands in name of safety and love will make them depend upon us and their self-confidence also never evolves. Just give them some time and allow them to be on them. But do not expect immediate perfection in their action and work like us. They are caterpillars not adult butterflies.

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1. May I know what type of apparatus/ education material should be provided to this age group of children?

Essential practical life activities: EPL

Allow the child from 8 months to handle anything which is harmless.

Their hands must hold and lift. 

So the objects must be of their size but not toys.

Arrange a small corner for them in a room and give them a perfect arrangement where all their tools to play and work can be placed.

Allow them to work along with you in all places in and out of house. But first show them how to handle.

Allow them to use clay, sand, stones, soil with a beach set. Their imagination and creativity will improve.

They will develop good social, civics and communication skills.

But before giving any object to work or play give them the proper instructions and limits.

Allow them to wash little vessels, cloths, and mob, clean the floor, sweeping, dusting, arranging your shelf, displacing furniture etc

Include them in all activities.

Vegetable cutting, chappathy making etc make them to focus more.

Give a bowl of water with a drop of bubbling soap and they are allowed to smash and wash their palms which initiates many minute nerves.

Folding, ironing after very light warmth, drying all can be given.

Toys:

Avoid fancy toys.

Try to give doll house, good kitchen set, baby dolls of live size.

Any toy which can make them to observe, talk around it [a train with station setup, jumbo jet, ship]

Puppets

Stuff toys can be given but they cannot become their beloved sleeping pets.

Modern research has proved that brain is able to focus with more pattern based tools like building sets,building blocks, various size laggos, nut screw sets, puzzles. In India we get lot of wooden pattern based design making tools.

Art-Craft:

Allow for more scribbling, kolam [floral designs which makes large connections with brain cells] making with simple dots [we must guide them], using many molding shapes with artificial clay dough, painting, water coloring, crayons etc [allow with minimal choice of using colors], collage making, craft all can be done.

Allow for more walking, jumping, climbing and getting down steps, opening-closing activities.

Give more geometrical shapes for making patterns and allow them to trace and color.

Animal models makes the children to explore more.

Allow the child to explore many types of sound making objects, arrange a simple musical kit with various sound making tools.

Dr.Maria Montessori has suggested the following sensorial tools for the initiation of all senses before the age of 6: 

These are costly. They have to be handled with learning because they are medically designed tools. They can be ordered from any Montessori education tool shops.

1. Pink tower

2. Cylindrical blocks - 4 sets with knobs

4. Colored cylinders 

5. Threading pads

Children must be given chance to handle various vessels, objects with various traditions. Give them clay vessels, plastic, steel and glass wears also.

Allow them for more spooning and pouring actions.

1. Autism – tips for parents to handle:

 

Autism is being handled in various levels based on the medical diagnosis. It has its severity.

As a teacher who has handled many autistic children I am putting forth my suggestion what we do.

Try to first accept the issue and be ready to understand the needs of the child.

Focus upon the socialized and civics skills of the child first.

The child can mingle with the group but it takes a long time with continuous efforts from school and home.

In our Uni5 schools we have mixed age group where children of various ages are in one class which makes the way for more mingling, understanding and social skills.

Let the child gets independent from all domestic activities like brushing teeth till eating etc.

Try to round up a group of children with whom the child can mingle. Even they may have an acceptance with an adult. We can ask that adult to spend some time with the child.

Allow the child to participate in all house hold work with the child size tools from washing cloths till cleaning the car with you. 

Just be behind their actions, but do not live in their place. Do not perform all actions in their placement.

Give freedom to move, act, talk, express, explore through five senses till it is not distracting others and harmless.

Autistic children show more interest in calculations, fine arts.

But you cannot make them immediately to sit in a painting class and learn.

Try to see the area of interest of the autistic child.

Every day when the child sleeps at night, hold the child's right hand or place your right hand upon his head and chant any name of the God. We chant Ram naama which brings more awareness.

Whenever the child is being distracted we can tell them to come and rest near us.

Mixed age group will do that work properly than adults.

Do not expect the autistic child to cope up with normal education immediately.

Talk very calmly to the child with more positiveness.

Prepare the child to face any new situation and allow to explore that situation.

If you feel your child cannot face that context and will distract, please avoid that, do not listen to the third person's comments.

At the same time do not show too much of  attention upon the child's actions which will evolve as attention seeking behavior later.

For 41 days try to give the following oil bath.

1. Choose a good quality red soil or clay from any organic farm.

2. Make cricket ball size clay dough or soil dough. The child must be placed on a banana leaf if possible. Child's chest must be on floor.

3. Apply that at the back of the child specifically at the end of vertebral column.

5. After few minutes chant the naama and start smearing the dough across whole body and do massage.

6. Apply good quality of  warm organic sesame oil from top to bottom all the child to rest for 20 minutes and give a good warm water soapless bath. 

The child must be exposed to more nature, good music etc.

Talk with compassion and expression. Try to be firm when unacceptable actions are made, explain that and do not be angry or violent.

Use correct language at correct context and try to associate the objects of focus with the child. 

It is also very very important to provide Dr.Montessori's sensorial tools to work [but they are costly].

Always have a physical touch and talk to the child and also you must have an eye contact.

All the house hold activities improves he child's focusing skills, hand-joint - motor skills, skill to do a work and settles the agitated physical and mental energy.

Puzzles, lagos [building sets], sand pit, clay work, art-painting, crafts can make the child's focus.

The mother must not do all these with a time concerned aim and cannot expect immediately the child will respond. It is like evolution. Among 100 activities one will sure make the child to get focused and do not expect and force the child.

If you are in India we welcome you to visit our Uni5 centers so that you can see the setup, because we cannot write all here.

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1. Children talking unacceptable words [bad words] - How to handle?

It is a great stress for parents and teachers when they hear someone saying that the child uses abusive, unacceptable words.

Immediately parents react saying that they never use at home and blame someone in surrounding or van children or others.

It is a bitter truth that we need to accept we have not used the same words but used some other words out of stress at home without awareness in presence of children.

Even low level voice uttering of such words is enough for the child to grasp as their ear sense is very sharp.

It is also true that the child grasp such words from others.

The must have seen a parent in neighborhood , friends, teachers etc.

Children use the abusive words when they are stressed and they want to show their defense against any un liking issues.

They interpret that by using such words they have grown.

They interpret that by using such words they can tame or control others.

They have an inner enjoyment that we respond to them.

Some children have revenged their adults by suing such terms also.

Till the age of 6 the child just grasp and does not know it is good or bad and use the language.

So we must be very aware in our own language.

By 6 years when you oppose and check them they are quiet enough to say, ''Dad or mom used, why cannot me?''

Till the age of 6 their brain cannot clearly differentiate good and bad and they just do what the group of their age and adults around them do.

We say, ''This word cannot be used and you can be supplied with a word to express your anger''

We put a tree [chart cutout] in hall and fill the unacceptable words used by kids and they have to to us saying tat in various contexts of stress they need to verbalize a different words and we also supply that word.

Ex: vaa yai mood [shut up] is unacceptable and we say ''please lock your mouth'' or even by action children have learned to convey that.

In worst cases we make them to brush their mouth.

Children bring always complaints about others telling that they have used a 4 letter word and they like to verbalize that. Better not appreciate that context, just say ''I will see to it''

In higher level we talk about energy concept.

When sound energy is not used well and misused health will be spoiled and thought process will be blocked.

We can also make a small corner call stress free corner with a smiling face where children can go and sit or stand conveying that they have a stress and they wish to express. This has made even adults to reduce the negative thoughts, filthy words and stress at home.

When we feel our children using bad words, we call and firmly say, ''In our home we do not want a child using this word'' and just give certain things which they like.

Do not respond to them and oppose them verbally, but just stop talking to them for a time being.

In higher age levels we can talk about the words and personality which we can discuss later.

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1. What are the factors which makes a child to get stressed at family situation?
2. Parental conflicts for any silly – serious reasons before the child.
3. Verbal, physical abuses of parents, family members to each other.
4. Verbal, physical abuses of parents, family upon the child.
5. Unwanted silly strict handlings of the adults.
6. Very harsh verbal abusive languages before others.
7. Ill-treating the child or an adult beloved to the child at public or others.
8. Talking ill about the child and adult beloved to the child.
9. Talking certain facts about the family issues before all.
10. Talking ill about the child in presence of others especially strangers and in absence of the child.
11. Sickness of parents, adults at home.
12. Pinpointing the child and making fun, teasing for silly or serious reasons and for parental attitude.
13. Branding the child in the name of parental issues, family matters, education, skills, physical appearance etc.
14. Comparing the child with siblings and other relative children directly regarding studies, skills etc.
15. Excluding the child in family gatherings, good occasions etc.
16. Separation of parents because of work, transfer, broken relations, death.
17. Broken wedding, death will cause a major damage within the child.
18. Death and separation of any good beloved adult of the family upsets the child.
19. When we do not consider the child’s important needs, school issues, peer pressure issues, sibling issues the child will be stressed.
20. When we do not consider the child’s physical fitness also it stresses the child.
21. Silly comparison and praising of siblings.
22. Sibling arrival to the family must be well informed and the child must be mentally well prepared.
23. Unacceptable behavior issues of parents.
24. Parents’ attitude in public, family matters.
25. Unnecessary threats from the family, adults.
26. Black mailing by parents for their issues.
27. Sharing unwanted information [not age appropriated] with the child.

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8. What are the factors which stresses a child in class room?

1. Peer pressure - it will be discussed in detail.

2. Attitude of teachers.- will be discussed separately

3. Sudden change in section for various reasons.

4. In the beginning of  new academic year some children are unable to accept the fresh class for some time.

5. Change in standards and change in teachers who were handling for long time.

6. Class room setup.

7. Place where the child sits.

8. Bulling by friends and teachers.

9. Ragging by class mates.

10. Angle of the black boards, charts.

11. Noise level of class mates.

12. Time interval given for board copying.

13. Concepts not reaching the child by teacher.

14. New arrival of new friends.

15. Sudden situation in which a or many friends neglecting or leaving school or shifting to another class.

16.  Children carry home stress to school.

17. sickness, un cared by parents, fear for punishments, comparison, fear for not completing the work, doing tests well, fear for subject in person.

18. Parents not giving enough food, not allowing for enough sleep, incomplete work, exams, unnecessary fear for exams.

19. Pressure also from sports.

20. Physical fitness.

21. Not allowed for restroom when required.

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1. What happens when parents neglect the child and give worst punishments?

Please do not threat your child or handle with violence please. But the child must be made to feel that parents are having the right to say what is right and what is wrong.

Do not threat in any way from very young age.

Instead of that try to make them to known and accept the consequence of their actions.

Cause and effect theory is very important in handling unacceptable actions.

What will happen if you go on handle them with corporal harsh violence punishments?

I am sharing my own experience just happened last week in a suburban school with grade 5 child.

This child has many psychological issues.

This child is being neglected by the parents as they hold the leading posts in Government.

The child is just left at home with a driver and small brother in pre-school level.

For this child the little brother is the whole world.

For any thing the parents handle in worst way.

Than that the child is exposed to the parents' situation when they take worst decisions with people who did mistakes in various issues.

Last week when I was giving the dictation in the class this child alone was playing with the pen and poring the ink drops on the note book.

I just gave a warning and continued and again the child was doing the same.

I just went nearby and took away the note and said, ''Please see how you have damaged the writing book, better ask your father to collect it and replace with neat sheets''

Immediately the child became angry, raised from the bench and took away the scale and shouted,

''Hey sir, if you don't give back my note book I will  make my mother to threat you with police or rowdies''

I sensed the context and calmly said, ''do you think what you have done is write to the note?''

Child, ''No, I am sorry!''

I, ''OK, but you you need to get back from the coordinator after class''

Child again with rough anger, ''Hey, if you do not give back and hand over to my parents I will beat you. I hate every one. I also neglect my coordinator as she always have meetings with my parents and they punish me in worst way, I hate all of you...''

Immediately I asked another child to call the coordinator and came of the class and they calmed down the child.

Counselor says, ''please do not talk about the parents as they have handled the child in worst way even for any simple issues. The parents are not ready to give up or sacrifice their post and pride and the child is undergoing the inner damage, we must be assisting the child to face any thing boldly''

Please think...... 

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1. What are the most important aspects has to be focused by parents and teachers at the age of 0 months to 6 years?

 

1. Give enough work to hands and brain.

2. Do not stop any thing unless it is dangerous.

3. Expose to nature.

4. Give correct language.

5. Can introduce 6 languages.

6. Allow the child to explore through senses and talk around it.

7. Encourage more conversation and social skills.

8. Perform all actions perfectly before them and they learn by imitation.

9. Give chance for more imagination and talk.

10. Start introducing more civics sense.

1. Issues that CAN be within your child.....part 1

 

The following articles will discuss various issues which can be within a child of any age in schooling.The article does not pin point any one in person and it is being written after a long research experience. [But this article does not support peer pressure issues out of luxury]

1. The child can feel bad about the way his uniform and shoes has been maintained.

2. Bags, boxes, lunch cases, water bottles

3. Quality of food, snacks, dresses on Saturdays [color dresses]

4. Parents forgot and refuse to get stationary things for proper reason at right time.

5. Parents not supporting to get ready for the school by time.

6. Parents coming in bad looking smartness before the teachers and friends. [Mothers coming in night dress - example]

7. Parents always making the grandparents and maids to take of the child.

8. Very special things which has o be shared are not being listened by parents.

9. Parents talking ill about child's friends and teachers.

10. Morning conflict among adults at home, parents not dropping at right time, paying fine, having clash with school people.

will grow......

Sample:

Last week a 9th student was left 10 minutes late at school and she was sent back home. She missed her test and a magic show which has pulled her down and she did not respond to next day's work properly. Father just left to office but the student has taken a deep impact of the effect of sending back home. The father was informed several times about this. He has his own way of timing....Please think!  

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1. Parents! Please pay the school payments at right time…

Please pay the school fees, van fees, outside trip fees to your child in given date.

If you are pending it is upsetting the child and somehow other children make fun on the child's family.

This creates lot of issues within the child.

This is being taken o study side and the child is not doing well.

Please give enough information to the child and school when there is a delay.

Please inform your child if you are delaying in your payment.

Consequences given to the child whether violently or in smooth way are dangerous for child psychology.

please do not always say that your child is not doing the best for the fees which you are paying.

Please do not put off the teachers, school management for the above said reason.

As we said earlier there are 100s of reasons for a child for lagging behind in studies.

Just by paying a good fees and putting your child in a good school education does not come.

When you talk ill about the school, fees, teaching the child take advantage over it in many ways.

This leads to many behavior issues.

Example: 15 years back when I worked in a very big school, a teacher was commented by a student when she checked his marks as follows:

''Mam, please see to your own way. I am paying, you are teaching. I can have a private tuition outside. Do not ask questions''

Do not let down your child getting pinpointed for the delay in any school payment.

Recently a child has been stopped writing his checkpoint exams because the father has not paid the 2 terms fees.

But the same father spends much for other expenses and child got confused. His friends said, ''why cannot you stop purchasing very expensive novels for reading, save the money and pay the fees'' - This truth is being taken very badly by the teen age child.

So be punctual in your payment.

With regards,

Dr.Madeswaran.M

Madras, March 14, 2015

[With this week cycle one session over]

The Uni5 suggestions helps parents to know about the five needs of a child. Catering to these needs at the proper time will ensure the development of a child with strong physical, emotional, intellectual, awareness  and a socially responsible being. 

Details in http://www.uni5.co/index.php/uni5-education-system-ues-2/five-needs-of-a-child.html

 

 

Read the explantion Notes from Dr.Madeshwaran circulated to parents in different times in the blog

The Uni5 suggestions helps parents to know about the five needs of a child. Catering to these needs at the proper time will ensure the development of a child with strong physical, emotional, intellectual, awareness  and a socially responsible being. 

Details in http://www.uni5.co/index.php/uni5-education-system-ues-2/five-needs-of-a-child.html

Read the explantion Notes from Dr.Madeshwaran circulated to parents in different times below this photo.

Till the age of 6..... [be aware dear parents!]

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your child.,

Observe every moment around him.

Imbibe every action happening around him.

Learn very fast directly and indirectly from peer group and especially from adults

Very fast language construction and be aware about your language

Very sharp in observing and listening, so be aware about your own activities 

Cannot judge a person and understand the good and bad and stop advising 

Say yes \ no and try to say the cause and effects

Age of taste - so introduce all good acceptable tastes in food, place the dish first at the tongue tip

Do not give too much choice, you choose 3 dress and out of that let them choose 1

Do not put blame on others even for their silly falls, hurts and tease others

Do not put down any one and talk - gossip in-front of the child

Child of this age absorbs  every thing.....

will grow

Dr.Madeswaran

3.7.2015

Be ready for your child's call....

Prepared your child to face the challenges.

The life is full of interesting and hating tough times and challenges.

But today especially in this 5 years we are seeing children are very timid in nature.

They are very strong intellectually and informative through modern technology.

We see children even in teens very timid to accept even simple challenges.

''My child is having a blade cut, she cannot write''

''My child gets blister, please excuse for ground play''

''My child will take medicine once in a hour [for a simple fever]''

''My child feels scared about studies, he has not done the mistakes''

Plenty of lame silly excuse request letters gets loaded upon our table.

Modern parents are good in moral support to the child but they are unwanted much worried about very simple things which makes the child to loose the interest and challenges.

Too much of pampering spoils the child.

Allow the child to know the reality which is not hurting the physical and emotional status.

Give all needs but do not make the child lazy with all comforts and assist only when they are in need.

Too much care taking seems to cause fear about outer world and parents has to know that they cannot be with the child for ever in all contexts.

When we do all things by our - self for the child the child is getting out of interest and mission about life.

I got a letter that when a child did a simple exercise for sports day she was requested for not taking down notes in class for a week by her mother.

Our parents were not that much intellectually educated but they were bold enough to make us to face the reality which is so much missing in modern highly educated metro city parents in name of security, hygiene, health etc.

Be at the back of the child for all needs but allow the child to evolve on the own....

Be ready for their emergency call...they will live the best life

will grow

Dr.Madeswaran.M

11.6.2013, Madras

Very special needs for your child from 1-6 years

1. Allow the child to explore any thing not dangerous with all senses. - age of senorial development

2. Allow them to talk more and more and assist them with correct language - age of language development.

3. When they talk some times they go further imagination  - do not put off their interest and tell ''you are lying'' - it is age of imagination and creative talk.

4. Ask questions [comprehend]

5. Without giving enough practice and enough experience do not expect them to reproduce what they have read, seen, heard etc.

6. Allow the child to explore the out door environment as much as possible and give the guide lines of social and civics skills.

7. Please include them in all good social events, make them to see yourself as role models of all such events and handling.

8. Before talking them out make them to know about it and prepare them for that situation.

9. Do not expect them immediately to respond to a new person.

10. Please assist them when ever they need but do not do every thing for them which will put off their spirit and challenges.

will grow.,

Dr.Madeswaran.M

29.5.2015, Madras

When you take the child outside....

We must take our children out of our home.

In India when grand parents were at home they take even babies outside of the home for feeding.

Out side world gives the link between the home - self and reality of social life.

Out side world makes the child to explore and know many new things physically, emotionally and intellectually and the child become aware.

When I left to Coimbatore last Thursda I saw modern parents in bus just switching on the I pads and giving their children video games, etc and there is no chance for the child to observe the surroundings even a driver.

Today as a teacher I am finding very difficult with modern children to make a good communication and social skills.

In composition classes children feel very unhappy and tired that they cannot imagine.

Visual media and technology has brought this narrowness in playing only games or watching movies or sports etc.

Make your children to observe the surrounding when they travel.

Always try to talk with them, play with them ask comprehension quiz with the visual aspects they have gained and also give correct words to enrich their language at right context.

Show them various natural settings, man made features, people, culture etc

Prepare mentally before you leave.

While travelling play riddles, quizzes and enjoy.

Many times when I traveled with my parents at mid night when we got down for urinal usage at inns my mother has shown me the mid night sky with plenty of stars and orange moon in big size. On Tuesday night I saw the same moon when I gt down for my rest room.

In the bus I saw 2 young children asking several questions and parents just shouted them to keep quiet. A child asked ''Mother! this is a bus, but why there are many AC openings, our room has only one AC?'' - but the mother kept calm and the child's intellectual need was neglected.

All these reflects in class rooms. There are many teachers who does not want children to ask questions.

So encourage the children to talk more. In future children need more communication skills.

In country like India where the nature, people and culture are so different it is very important for us to make the children to explore them to connect and understand the relation with day to day life.

In our Uni5 schools once in a week we do nature walking exercise which makes the children to explore much more about the nature, connect to them-self and learn more civics sense.

Dr.M.Madeswaran

30.4.2015

Parents and teachers must accept that all children are not the same.

All children cannot do the same work.

Better stop the non-sense of comparison.

Here I am delivering a real example about my student....

Several years back Uma [name changed] has been identified with various learning difficulties in school.

Those who can accept her were stress free.

Many teachers commented her.

I took language for her in a special pattern to her level.

I grew along with her.

Her aesthetic sense and creativity were focused much in her work and this has been accepted by her parents, few of us and school. We encouraged her. She took subjects based on her ability and passed out grade 10.

She dances well and I saw her stage performances which was different.

After a gap suddenly her mother gave a call and welcomed be saying that she is ready for her final UG project day and as her tutor I must see her and her work.

Yesterday I went to a grand hall where Uma with her batch mates has exhibited her research and work. Now she is going to complete under graduation in visual arts in a reputed college for women in Madras. 

The work she has done made me to cry out of happiness.

She has designed several learning tools in various subjects for children with learning disabilities and she has made her work based on Montessori's sensorial applications.

I asked why she did this topic and the answer is the great message for any parent and teacher who wish to teach.

Uma says, ''How I can understand a concept in away I would be explained, I designed for a child who will have my problem of learning''

Materials made by her has to be focused by teachers.

She has made the political map of India with touch and feel sense of each state.

She made the physical features of India with great visual sense and especially she made each river can be stringed into loops across their route through states.

Her creativity in making very special models to see - touch - feel and understand the concepts of various opposites, parts of a flower are making us to implement them in our school.

I came out with a great feeling that God has given me the maturity to accept this girl and encourage who has now produced a great techniques for special learners. Her parents are her great support and she said that she will give a set of all tools to Uni5 centers and now she wish to take up a job.

This is the reality and enjoyment of a student who is being accepted by teachers and parents especially.

Please understand your child and never force your dreams upon them......

Will grow.

Dr.M.Madeswaran [Madras, 18th, 2015]

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