Programming a child?

We are the manifestation of the thoughts of our parents and our  child  is nothing but the  thoughts of us. The ancient masters have taught  us how our thought process would program our child. They believed that whatever thoughts are in our minds at the time of conception will transform themselves like a mirror in the offspring.  When a child is in its mother's womb, the mental disposition of the mother has a deep influence on the child. There are several evidences for this truth. Well the best proof is finding from your own mom.

   It is said that when Napolean was in his mother's womb, she was very fond of looking at the soldiers marching in parade. She used to burst with happiness witnessing the soldiers marching and singing martial songs. Napolean became a great warrior due to the influence of these Sanskars (mind impressions).

   The mother of prince Bismark while expecting him; used to be mentally upset while witnessing portions of her house being destroyed by the French Army of Napolean. The result of these strong Sanskars was that Bismark was keen to take revenge on France.

    Indian history is rich with such examples. Those who have read "Mahabharat" would know that  Abhimanyu  learned the skill of entering a battle field when his dad Arjun narrated it to his pregnant  mother Subhadra .

    Madalasa had great passion for knowledge during pregnancy and so all eight kids became great thinkers and sages.  When her husband wanted one warrior son, she changed the destiny of her 9th son by merely changing her thought process.

   It is said that when Geetu, the murderer of American president Garfield, was in his mother's womb; the mother tried to unsuccessfully abort him. The sanskaars of the child while in the womb made him a killer. So world history is replete with examples how the thought at conception and during pregnancy moulds the destiny of the child.

   Ancient Indian marriage system relied on selecting women from good families because they knew that the family's future generation  lied in the thoughts (mind) of the daughter-in-law. Thus more than a wealthy family they relied on sanskaar (thought processes) of  a family.

   We can now understand the importance of  thoughts during  'Conception'  and also appreciate the  amazing thought process initiated in Vedic-rituals to achieve the goal. Today we are shouting about social reforms, a society with peace and health. How can we achieve that when we parents ourselves do not have the right thoughts about health and peace.  To give them a practical shape is to understand the significance of this sanskar.

Brain formation : Genes do play an essential role in the brain's formation. More than half of a child's 100,000 genes are devoted to growing the 100 billion brain cells (called neurons) which will be needed to perform many tasks.  During the nine months in the womb, a baby's brain produces the neurons and connections, the majority of neurons are still waiting to be wired.

   That astonishing activity - the building of the circuitry that results in a baby's ability to smile, walk, talk, reason and respond and the TOTAL OUTLOOK OF LIFE - occurs during the first decade of life, which is influenced by the thoughts of the mother during pregnancy.  After generations of debate, scientists and child-development experts now agree that the brain is a complex coupling of nature - the genes a person is born with - and nurture - the experiences she has after she is born.

   But what ancient masters have understood and neuro-scientists has yet to learn is that the wiring pattern's foundation is drastically influenced when the baby grows in the womb that is dictated by mother's thoughts.  Indeed, new technology that can measure the location and volume of activity in the brain provides convincing evidence that the words we coo, songs we sing and peekaboo games we play have a direct impact on which connections will form, which will be strengthened and which discarded in the intricate brain circuitry that children carry with them into adulthood.

NEURON : A neuron looks like an octopus, but with many more than eight tentacles; each one has a tendril that sends out signals to its neighbors and to other parts of the body. "There are neurons that go down to the bottom of your spinal cord - one cell goes for two feet." That's one reason why kids need the support of mother to do the wiring. unfortunately modern women allow that job to happen in a day care center. 
Brain cells also need to receive signals. To do this, their tendrils feather out to form connections or synapses  with other cells. By a child's third birthday, each neuron will link up with as many as 15,000 others, forming a remarkable 1,000 trillion connections. That's a lot of brain power. What's more, scientists now know that these connections multiply at a feverish pace during the first ten years of life. That contradicts the long-held theory that a child's brain is less active than an adult's; indeed, your adult brain gets by with only half the number of synapses a child has, using a fraction of the energy. No wonder parents often have difficulty keeping up with their kids! This is an important fact during parenting.

   But brain development is not just about creating links. As it matures, the brain also eliminates, or prunes, connections. In a child's first three years, very little pruning occurs, but after age ten the elimination of unnecessary or little-used synapses takes off, with connections in some parts of the brain being pruned at a rate of 33 per second. 

  What these modern researchers talk is about the child's environment after birth. Seldom they understand that the decision of which neurons should sit next to each other is done while in the womb. Again and again we let you know that this is influenced by mother's thought.

    Knowing about the weakness and laziness of human mind,  ancient seers introduced these values in the form of rituals.  We will see the details of this fascinating ritual called seemant.

At this juncture we like to discuss about the art and science Sexual act (intercourse) which has lot of importance for a spiritual pregnancy.

   The Vedic branch of science  about Sexual act is the kama-Shastra.  Like the other Vedic information, sadly, this is also  widely mis-interpreted.  For the past few decades , due to the Western science influence, many modern Indians argued that the information given in Kama-shastra about avoiding Sex during menstrual period is orthodox thinking and is superstitious. However this information proved to be correct recently that women and men are both prone to get more venereal diseases when have sex during the menstruation days. The cervix in the women is opened to let go the menstrual blood and so vaginal intercourse increases the chance of getting infectious germs into the uterus.

   In ancient India (personally we know till the late eighty's) women in menstrual days were secluded from being even touched by others. they have to be in a private room the whole 3 to 5 days.

   Psychologically and physiologically women needs rest on the menstrual days. Exerting these days, women stress a lot their mind and body, increasing the chances of diseases like cancer, poor immunity and other ailments.  Lot of gynecological problems have sky-rocketed,  especially in India after women started feeling that these ancient orthodox feelings were nothing but a means to suppress women's freedom.

  The Vedic tradition, keeping the above health factor as the background and also to avoid sexual advancement of the husband from the menstruating wife and also to shun women from all house hold work and professional work, they were labeled as  impure, allowing women to have their monthly resting time for good health. Actually a women becomes pure body wise and mind wise on the menstrual days, but the ancient people knew for this particular event, a negative word of impurity works better than a positive word (see Negative words register the brain faster. )

   Our suggestion to women who plan for healthy pregnancy, give some time as rest during the menstrual cycle, especially those who have gynecological problems.

   Kama-Shastra not only gives the correct information about having sex at the body level but also at the mind level.