Effective solutions to some problems of both women and men are addressed here.
1. Pre-mature ejaculation
2. Problems in male and female orgasms.
3. Dryness and lack of pleasure during sexual intercourse.

If understands the deep concept in the Sexual intercourse all these problems can be easily be overcome. We will first discuss the sexual act, then discuss the problems associated with it. 

   Here we will be discussing about the Vaginal sexual intercourse, also called coitus or copulation. The purpose of this is for reproduction but also performed exclusively for pleasure and/or as an expression of love and emotional intimacy.

   Sexual intercourse or Coitus may be preceded by foreplay, which leads to sexual arousal of the partners, resulting in the erection of the penis and natural lubrication of the vagina.

Kama Sutra (Sex-Secret): It is the natural lubricated state of the female that gives maximum pleasure to the male. That is,   the male,  gets highest pleasure when he inserts the male organs into the highly lubricated Vagina. The natural lubrication a female produces in her excited state cannot be matched by any oil or a chemical gel. because in excitation , female not only produces lubrication in vagina, her brain produces gamma waves of happiness which induces the same in the male's brain also. This is the secret of Tantra-Sex, (we will discuss later).

   So when the female is lubricated both at the body (Vagina) and excited at the mind level, she enjoys maximum pleasure and in-turn gives that pleasure to the male. This pleasure of the Male amplifies the pleasure to the female, when he does the to-and-fro movements of his male organs in the vagina. This gives the highest pleasure to the female.  With this she lubricates more and give more pleasure to male. It becomes a chain reaction, like a bomb-reaction and explodes in tremendous pleasure. This is the secret of Tantra-Sex, (we will discuss later).

The Fore-Play: Many couples write to us about dryness of vagina and the pain associated with it when the male organ is inserted or in other cases, the inability to penetrate the male organ into the female vagina. We will discuss here the simple and most effective ways to achieve successful and pleasurable sexual act.

The key factor: Our objective is not to discuss here about the various acts of foreplay, but give you the essence of why a foreplay is vital and help you find your own ways of foreplay which will suit you.

   Arousal in men is quick , but in female it is sometimes slow.  The male gets full pleasure when he ejaculates the sperm which is called as male-orgasm. It is natural that the male gets complete satisfaction when through his male organ rubs against the soft and stimulating sensitive female vagina. The vagina can be lubricated with oils or aloe-vera natural or commercial gels. But the point is that these artificial lubrications does  give only the pleasure at the sensual level.

   Complete pleasure comes only when the female attains orgasm and when she secretes natural lubrication. In this highly lubricated state if the man attains orgasm, then  he attains the highest un-imaginable pleasure.

   So arousing the female and help her get orgasm should be the goal of the male's mind. The male should stimulate all the points of the female body which will achieve this purpose. This differs from each individual female. Not all like the same act. Some women have sensitive facial area, some like more breast sucking or kissing acts, some like more the thigh regions, some more stimulation of the vaginal area.

The Physical Sexual act

The key is to touch and stimulate the clitoris, a small organ but the most sensitive erogenous zone of a woman.

  The male should  touch and stimulate this organ, can lubricate with oil or with aloe-vera natural fluid or a commercial gel (natural best).

This touch and stimulating the clitoris will give immense pleasure to the women.  Touching this clitoris by hand or rubbing with the male organ also will excite. Only when the women gets her natural lubrication in her vagina and in the highly excited state the male should insert the penis in the vagina, resulting in coitus.

To engage in coitus, the erect penis is inserted into the vagina and one or both of the partners move their hips to move the penis backward and forward inside the vagina to cause friction, typically without fully removing the penis. In this way, they stimulate themselves and each other, often continuing until orgasm in both the partners is achieved. It is important that the female attain orgasm first, so that the male gets immense pleasure due to secretions she produces in the vagina (Ladies first,  always).

This is the basis of Tantric Sex. the female should first get orgasm and then only the male should ejaculate and get orgasm. This way both the male and the female gets complete sexual satisfaction.By this approach, the dryness of vagina and the difficulty to penetrate penis into vagina can be resolved.

In our practical experience we recommend doing Pranayama, meditation and relaxation  before the sexual act.  This gives immense control over the minds of the couples and can help prolong the time of foreplay and the sexual act.

Pre-mature ejaculation:

Pre-mature ejaculation and lack of sexual desire are some of the problems that most couples tell us. Inspite of using harmful medications like Viagra many couples fail in  prolonged sexual gratification. Where is the problem?. Problem lies in the state of the minds of the couple engaged in the act.

According to Vedic tradition, the Ego, the feeling of "I" ness is the root cause for ignorance and suffering. In couples engaged in Sexual act , each one's mind is focused to derive maximum pleasure forgetting the other partner. Here is the catch 20. This is the act wherein without complete union of two individuals one does not the wholesome the completeness of enjoyment. This is the act when the individual Ego has to melt down.

Sexual act is a Yoga, union and is divine because that is the gateway leading to the birth of a being. Vedic Tradition is the only tradition  that considers Sexual act as divine. In most of the Indian Hindu temples, one could find the sculptures of Sexual act. This lead to another mis-interpretation of Symbolic Vedic images like Linga as Phallus.To get maximum sexual gratification untouched by the common sexual problems we give the simple Yogic method of enacting the sexual act.

             The  four states of pleasures in Sexual act.

The sexual act is done for four basic purposes.  One for intellectual reason of reproduction. other than that major reason is for  pleasure. Like Happiness, there are four states of getting this happiness.

   At body level, the pleasure is focused only at gratifying the senses. There is no emotional love or attachment. This is why sexual act is called prostitutional and not respected.  In this sexual act only the body organs are involved and nothing more than that and the pleasure last only for that moment.

   But when sexual act occurs out of showing an emotional bondage (at Mind level), the pleasure is both for the sensual organs and also for the mind , that it last for more hours or even few days.

   When the sexual day is done for bearing the child, there is please at body level, mind level and at the intellect level and may last for whole life time.

    When the Sexual act is done at the awareness level, then there is all the levels of pleasure at body, mind, intellect and awareness level and the pleasure last for eternal.  This is the essence of Tantric Sex, to have the all four stages of pleasure.

    How to attain Sexual pleasure at Awareness level?.

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            What does the term Samskaar mean?

Every thought and every action leaves a subtle impression on the mind of a person as a permanent record. These are called Samskar. Ancient scientists always gave importance to the thoughts in the mind. It is the way of thinking that attributes to the personality.

   The Vedic Samskaar system does not deny that a child is created through parental union of sperm-ovum; it also does not deny that environment has a great hand in the development of the off-spring. This is the reason that the Vedic Sanskaars are classified in two categories. The first category  is formed while the child is in its mother's womb: these can be called the prenatal Sanskaars (garbhasth sanskar); the second category is formed after birth: these can be called postnatal Sanskaars (janmasth sanskar).

   Every Cultural traditions around the world has it own sanskars. But it is well defined in Indian system because of it heritage. As we mentioned it earlier you can use this information to understand you own tradition.

Prenatal and Postnatal Sanskaars.

  Conception (Garbhadhan ), Pro-creation (Punsavan), and  Mental Development (Seemantonayan) are the prenatal Sanskaars.

  Pursuit of Knowledge (Upanayan), Enquiry of the learned knowledge (Brahmacharya), Application of that knowledge (Grihastha)  etc. are the postnatal Sanskaars.

Pregnancy - pre-steps

Instead of making pregnancy an accident and panic about the steps to be undertaken,  it is best to pre-plan what is needed.

Garbha Raksha Mantra

http://www.kamakotimandali.com/stotra/Garbharakshambika.pdf